Distrust and Verify
We know that the journey of life teaches you many things and many lessons. The key is to learn from them and try not to repeat them. Isn’t that what every adult always preached to you when you were younger?
Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me. Remember that.
Over my many years in life and business, I have had the pleasure of being around and working with some really amazing people but I have also encountered the opposite… the disingenuous ones who seem to have an ulterior motive. Being the trusting person I am, and one who lives openly and honestly, I would begin all relationships with the assumption that the person I’m dealing with is a good person with good intentions. So naive! Especially a few decades ago!
Today I think differently. I’m not saying that I walk around like a pessimist or people hater, BUT I do rely on two things to assist me with my decision making. One is my second brain also known as the all powerful female intuition and 6th sense that guides us ladies!
I’m talking about that sixth sense that’s telling you something might not be right about the person or situation. In medical terms it’s know as the Enteric Nervous System (ENS) which resides in your gut! Evidently the ENS has more neurons than the spinal cord and covers a surface area 100x greater than that of our skin and has 30 neurotransmitters! And studies show that the ENS actually sends input to our brains in regards to stress, sadness, memory, learning, and even decision-making. That fascinates me! I’m no doctor but I know when I am getting that funny feeling. So why ignore it? … your second brain that is…
You know when you get that “feeling” that something doesn’t quite feel right but you don’t know why and can’t explain it. If you listen to it and you are wrong, you didn’t lose anything. But if you ignore it and you’re right, things could turn out badly. More often than not, your gut is right, so you should listen to it. Better to be safe than sorry.
I learned to trust it and rely on it. I rely on the “Gina Gut Check.” I certainly pay more attention than I used to so I can avoid inviting “crazy into the building.” That’s just a “Gina” phrase I use, but you get it. Don’t invite crazy into the building…aka, your life.
The other thing I rely on is some advice given to me from a retired, 75 year old successful entrepreneur. He told me to always “distrust and verify” before making decisions.
It’s true. Everyone is selling something and has a story whether you are dating someone new, meeting your child’s new friend, hiring a new employee, entering a new business venture or voting for the next President of the United States. Don’t believe everything they tell you until you verify it to be true.
It applies to anything. It’s just a piece of advice I wished I had been given a lot earlier in life.
So unless you are highly intuitive, just remember these words and apply it.
Distrust and Verify.